Friday, February 12, 2010

The Perfect Gift

I’ve always loved giving gifts; they are an expression of my feelings toward and my desire to please those I love. Over the years my husband and I have each searched and searched for just the right gift to give the other for any gift giving occasion. I remember, in the early years of our marriage, hearing of older long-married couples who didn’t give gifts to each other and I remember thinking, I will never let our marriage get dull enough that we don’t even want to give the other a gift. Well, here we are, an older long-married couple and, frankly, I don’t give a hoot about gifts. In fact, for the last few years, I’ve asked my family not to get me gifts for Mother’s Day and my birthday (I still like to have a few things under the Christmas tree, though), but I’d much rather receive kind words or a family activity. This weekend is Valentine’s Day and, while I’d love to present my husband with a gift that truly expresses the love, devotion and gratitude I feel toward him, the reality is that no physical item can do that and anything less seems trivial. The real gifts are the on-going commitment to our relationship, the friendship we share, the history we’ve accumulated. Those are the perfect, lasting, most-meaningful gifts in a relationship. Of course, if my husband wants to visit the jewelry store…(just kidding)


helen said...

Debbie Yesterday was Al's 60th birthday. I was feeling badly that I had not gotten him a special gift, but to be honest there was truly nothing he wanted and the thought of purchasing pants and shirt for such an important birthday just did not seem right. So I gave him 4 cards, a home made dinner, my attention and the promise of a beach get away when ever he is able to go. Your blog put my "gifts" to him in perspective. Thanks

Kim H. said...

Like I always say, "Jewelry's always good"...I agree with you 100% and it's not that we are dull and an old married couple, it's that we have matured very nicely and appreciate the little things in life, like all the daily things.