Tuesday, May 19, 2009

Parenting: Sometimes It Even Makes You Smile

I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again: Parenting isn’t for wimps! In a family the size of ours, there’s always something going on with the kids – some good, some bad. There are some days when I wonder if the work is all worthwhile; I had one of those days recently. I won’t go into the specifics, but let’s just say that some of my little angels were being something less than angelic. I fretted, I talked, I reasoned; it was tough – and I’m not a wimp. Finally, with events settling down, I went to bed exhausted. I awoke in the morning to a funny story from one of our older kids about his escapades the previous night. Nothing illegal or bad had happened, just funny circumstances. Then I saw the face of another child who had been out to the first concert sans parents and I reflected on the amusing fact that I was relieved that this child had become lost only four times in route. As I deal with children, teenagers and young adults, I’m constantly torn between the parenting stressors of monitoring, disciplining and training and the parenting joys of seeing the possibilities in each child’s heart and head and loving each one for who she or he is. It’s true, parenting isn’t for wimps; there are days, weeks, sometimes months or years that are tough, but there are also sweet moments and funny stories; sometimes, even when we don’t expect it, perhaps when we need it most, being a parent can even make us smile.

1 comment:

helen said...

Debbie you are so right. Katie has brought so many positives into my life and challanges. I was struck by your words that sometimes there are even bad years. I have felt that but never had the courage to but it into words. Life has a natural balance so I have also experienced good years. Keep writing and wear your Pollyanna image with pride. Teasing always comes from jealousy.