Wednesday, January 14, 2009

The Unexpected Sandwich Generation

As with many other people my age, I’ve recently gone from being a member of the glorious, perhaps infamous, Baby Boom Generation to being a member of the Sandwich Generation. I spent some time in this generation 15 years ago when my mother was terminally ill and I’m back in it again with my mother-in-law. We still have four children living at home and now we also have my mother-in-law living with us. I have spent the morning sitting by her bedside – talking with her, reading to her and listening to a CD of her own mother’s piano music. It’s been a tough morning, but just as we revel in the opportunity to care for our children, I am also finding the act of sitting here, caring for my mother-in-law, to be an opportunity to be relished. Being sandwiched between generations is, for sure, a tough ordeal, but the chance to help my husband’s mother, who has always been a wonderful mother-in-law, brings me, in some strange way, an unusual sense of peace and joy. It is an unexpectedly sweet sandwich.

2 comments:

Kim H. said...

Debbie and Brian-you two have THE biggest hearts and your entire family is so blessed to call you FAMILY. I know where to go now if I ever need a 'sandwich'!lol My best to you and your family as you enter into yet, another new journey.

amy said...

Debbie, what an encouragement you are to me to look outside of my own comfort to encourage those around me. I was just looking at the wonderful gift you sent to a few of us about what it means to be a family. You have a beautiful family. Thanks for sharing them with us!