Tuesday, February 19, 2008
I’ve been trying to figure out the reason behind this new sense of calm I feel. It’s not that this sense has come over me in just the last few weeks; it’s been building for years. It’s just that now it is at a point where it is very real to me. What I’ve come up with is that the calm stems from a changed sense of perspective. I think that, as we go through life, as we experience the ups and downs, the dreams and realities, we gain a sense of perspective about what matters. It’s not just a clearer picture of what is really important in our lives, it’s also a better understanding of one of the truths of life – that we live our lives making choices, some good, some bad, and, obviously, those choices chart the direction of our lives, but few choices are entirely irreversible. Having a child is pretty much an irreversible choice and that also puts constraints on future choices, but most choices are not irreversible. I think my new sense of calm is from an understanding that how I spend my day today does not have to define what I do with my day tomorrow. I’ve gained the perspective that there are always doors that can be opened, that new possibilities always exist – regardless of the status quo, regardless of expectations, and, especially, regardless of age. It’s freeing!